KidsFirst places children domestically with couples, and single men or women, based on the preferences of the expectant mother. We work with expectant mothers who are pregnant and/or experiencing difficulties with parenting a child. In most cases, the expectant mother is highly involved in identifying the adoptive family. In other cases, she may prefer that the agency assists her with choosing a family. The time that it takes for you to be matched with an expectant mother is dependent upon her preferences, as well as on yours.
Families should also consider preferences dealing with an open, semi-open, or closed adoption. In an open adoption, identifying information is fully disclosed, and contact between the expectant family and adoptive family is frequent and continuous, depending upon the agreement between the families. In a closed adoption, all identifying information is confidential, and there is no contact between the expectant family and the adoptive family. A semi-open adoption falls somewhere along the continuum, often allowing for an initial meeting between expectant and adoptive families. The adoptive families and expectant mothers have the freedom to determine their level of openness in the adoption; you will only be matched with an expectant mother whose preferences match your own. It is important to note that many expectant mothers prefer semi-open adoptions, as it is considered a healthy choice for her and for the child in most cases. We ask our families to please consider the well-being of all members of the adoption triad when making this plan.
KidsFirst's team of staff will guide you through the complexities surrounding the domestic adoption process. We will ensure that your adoption is carried out in a safe, efficient, and sensitive manner. We strive to minimize anxiety for all parties throughout the entire process.
There are essentially 5 steps to completing a domestic adoption. They are as follows:
- Agency consultation - You will meet with our agency director and staff to learn more about the program's details. You will begin to formulate your adoption plan and understand your specific role in the adoption process.
- Agency application and completion of a home study - Your mandatory home study can be completeda licensed social worker or another licensed home study agency.
- Completion of a profile book - Expectant mothers will view every compatible family's profile book to choose the family she wants to parent the child. The profile book tells/shows a story about the adoptive family.
- Matching - Once your home study has been approved and your profile book has been completed, you are ready to be matched with a potential expectant mother. At this stage there needs to be a mutual level of comfort between the expectant family and the adoptive family.
- Correspondence - Once you have accepted a match, you will begin your relationship with the birth family. In some cases, financial support of the birth mother is necessary. This will be determined on a case-by-case basis. You may be invited to the hospital for the birth, or you may be asked to refrain from visiting; this is dependent on the birth mother’s wishes.